Wednesday, February 24, 2016

"Life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change."

This has been a crazy, busy week.  The stomach virus bug is working its way through the mission bringing along it's friends Nausea, Vomiting and Body Aches and Pain. I finally made a sticky with the instructions for care since it involved a little more than take ibuprofen with food and I'll check in on you in two days.  I could copy and paste.  However, in my dreams I was still writing:  "Rest your stomach. When you have stopped vomiting, begin with sips of water and if you can tolerate that, slowly increase your fluid intake so that you don't become dehydrated.  Avoid fatty and spicy foods and eat a bland diet for a couple of days until your stomach is completely better. When you can eat, take two ibuprofen with food every 4-6 hours for body aches and pains."  I don't want you to think I'm complaining.  It is just difficult to put into words the things that I do that can seem to occupy so much time.

 I took a sister to the dentist about 1/3 of the way out onto Long Island Tuesday because she had been transferred into the city.  The dentist was doing a free root canal for her so it wasn't wise to cancel and reschedule to an area she could easily get to.  I went to the doctor Friday with a sister who doesn't speak English very well because she felt insecure going even with her companion.  I love my work!  Love spending time with the missionaries and getting to know them better.

Saturday morning I helped clean the church and then did some grocery shopping.  Saturday evening President and Sister Reynolds hosted a dinner at the mission home for all of the senior couples.  It was a very nice evening getting to know the couples who live too far away to come to FHE on Monday nights at my place.  Elder and Sister Prince will be leaving Thursday or Friday.  The new couple, the Williams, have arrived from Seattle to take the place of the Princes.

Elder and Sister Prince.
Sunday evening I was invited to dinner at Elder and Sister Duke's home.  The Princes and Williams were there too so we could all get better acquainted with them. Sister Williams does not walk so I am losing my walking partner when Sister Prince leaves.  It will be difficult to see them go but I am sure their family is waiting anxiously to see them.  They will be returning home to Texas.

City by night from the bridge.
City from the bridge by day.
Saturday afternoon before the dinner at the mission home, Sister Prince and I walked over into the crescent area.  A few posts ago, I wrote about Rego Park where I live.  To refresh your memory:   "many houses in southern Rego Park are in the colonial, English, and Tudor styles with slate roofs. There are also two and multi-family townhouses, detached wood-frame houses. This is especially so in an area called the Crescents, named for its semicircular shaped streets emanating in a concentric pattern from Alderton Street, between Woodhaven Boulevard and the Long Island Rail Road's Main Line.[4] The Crescents contain many Tudor and single-family homes, as well as large lawns and tree plantings on the sidewalks."  (From Wikipedia)

The homes there are beautiful.  It reminds me of the Harvard area of SLC.  The streets are not quite so tree-lined as on Harvard but the home construction and types are similar.

Crescent neighborhood of Rego Park.
Long, narrow lots with stand alone homes.
Sister Prince



Another beautiful home. Looks a little newer but maybe just remodeled.
There is an elementary school in the neighborhood.  Very nice.  It has a playground and yard that is not asphalt.  I have included a picture of a plaque on the school telling about William Sidney Mount.  I Googled him on Sunday afternoon.  Interesting man.


"William Sidney Mount (November 26, 1807 - November 19, 1868) was an American painter best known for his genre paintings, although he also painted landscapes and portraits. He was a contemporary of the Hudson River School.

William SIDNEY Mount
William Mount was born in Setauket, Long Island, New York, on November 26, 1807 to Thomas Shepard Mount and his wife, Julia Ann Hawkins. He trained at the National Academy of Design in New York, New York, and in 1832 was made a full Academician. He died in Setauket, Long Island, on November 19, 1868.

Although he started as a history painter, Mount moved to depicting scenes from everyday life. Two of his more famous paintings are Eel Spearing at Setauket (1845, New York State Historical Association, Cooperstown) and Bargaining for a Horse (1835, New-York Historical Society, New York City).

Bargaining for a horse by William Sydney Mount.
The largest collection of his works is located in the Long Island Museum of American Art, History, and Carriages.

His home and studio, the William Sidney Mount House, is a National Historic Landmark. One of the local elementary schools in The Three Village Central School District is named in his honor, as is PS 174 elementary school in Rego Park, Queens. A residential building is named after him on the Stony Brook University campus."


At our dinner on Saturday night, it was suggested that we meet together monthly for a senior's outing.  Each couple is supposed to host a dinner, excursion, an evening at a play or something of that nature.  I think I will suggest we go to the Long Island Museum of American Art, History, and Carriages.   I looked at the website.  They have over 200 carriages on display along with the art.  Some of the displays are outside so I am thinking a late spring date would be good.

I have a difficult time seeing the sisters and elders leave to go home. I know it is part of the mission- the call and the release- but I grow to love these people and don't want to part with them. I am feeling especially sad to see the Princes leave. Change is good, but also hard at the same time.  Made me think of a saying I once heard:  "Life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change."   I know that through change we grow so I am going to look at this change as an opportunity to grow.  Thank goodness for modern technology.  I can still stay in touch with these wonderful friends.

I love you my family and friends.

FHE dinner


This is where you take your iPhone and iPad when they are sick!!
A building in Flushing I like the strange shape and color.
Chinese characters on the signs. This is Queen's China Town.


Tuesday, February 16, 2016

"Remember in all things the poor and the needy"

Because of the weather and other obligations, our morning walks have been sporadic.  Monday morning, Sister Prince and I decided that we would walk regardless of the weather.  It had snowed Sunday evening/night and we were concerned about the slick sidewalks and the stairs and bridge over the train tracks but vowed to at least try it.  Sister Prince showed up at my door with a pair of snow cleats that her daughter had sent to Elder Prince.  He didn't want them so she brought them to me.  She had her own pair so we set off to conquer the hills and walks of Rego Park and Middle Village.  It was actually fun!! Reminded me of our ice fishing days and moon boots with traction.  Nothing slowed us down.  Not even the icy patches!  Mind you, we were careful.

Ice cleats

The apartments in the mission have to be inspected on a regular basis to make sure that the missionaries are living in safe environments.  The senior couple over housing has their plates full, so the other seniors are called in to help.  There are 11 zones.  Some couples inspect 2 zones.  I had only Zone 4 to inspect but since I can't go into the elders' apartments alone, Sister Reynolds, the Mission President's wife, accompanied me.  It was a fun day. I had never been into any of the other apartments.  I was pleased and surprised at the good places the missionaries have.   They knew we were coming so I'm sure they were extra clean for the inspection but it was a nice surprise.  A couple of apartments had smoke alarms that needed battery replacements, air leaking in around an air conditioner, and missing light bulbs but other than that there were no major problems. 

I've had some interesting cases to work on this week.  I obviously can't go into details too much but cardiac arrhythmia, ducts in the eyes blocked so I learned about a new procedure called Lipiflow to unblock the ducts, headaches and MRI, shoulder/neck pain, back pain, and the usual number or maybe a few more than usual colds, sinus infections, coughs, and nausea and its friends.  I've been pretty busy!

The cold weather we have had this week has given me pause to think about the people who live on the streets.  When I opened my blinds on Thursday morning, there was a homeless man with his shopping cart and his cardboard-box-home just in front of my apartment.  I think it was the same man I saw when it was warmer down at the service station on the corner with his shirt off bathing and shaving out of a bucket. My heart aches and tears come to my eyes when I see the wind chill warnings and admonitions to be safe, stay inside, and to keep your pets safe and warm.  Here are human beings living in card board boxes under the overpass or anywhere else they can hide.  It makes me feel so grateful for my bounteous blessings: good health, family and friends, the food on my table, and the warmth and safety of shelter.   I want to help but at the same time, I feel helpless to know how to help these needy people who for whatever reason, have no place to go.  New York City has warming shelters around the city where people can go to get warm.  I hope that the man I saw with his portable home finds one of these shelters.

The wind chill alerts sent out.


I can tell you it was a mighty cold wind.
Had a missionary call worried that she got frostbite when she filled her car's gas tank.
She wore gloves. She is ok. Frost nip not bite. Fingers will be ok. It only took 3 minutes!
The temp on my car when I picked up my 91 year old friend to take her to church.
When I got in an started it it was 1 degree. This was 25 minutes later it was 3 degrees.
Homeless man's possessions. He was between the houses rummaging through the trash cans.
Looking out my window.

Thinking about what part I can play in helping the needy and poor made me think of a talk given by Elder Russell M. Nelson way back in 1986.  I don't know why I remembered this except that I think it was part of a lesson I once gave in Relief Society.  Thought I'd share a part with you:

"Although reasons vary according to time and place, the poor and the needy have nearly always been present. Regardless of cause, our Heavenly Father is concerned for them. They are all his children. He loves and cares for them.

Lessons from the Old Testament remind us that when the Lord sent prophets to call Israel back from apostasy, in almost every instance, one of the first charges made was that the poor had been neglected.

Scriptures teach us that the poor-especially widows, orphans, and strangers-have long been the concern of God and the godly. The poor have been especially favored by the law. Old Testament teachings authorized poor persons at harvest time to glean after the reapers. At fruit-picking time, what was left hanging on branches belonged to the poor.

To those who cared for the poor, blessings were promised. The Lord would deliver them in time of trouble. (See Ps. 41:1.) Truths were taught by these proverbs: "He that hath mercy on the poor, happy is he." (Prov. 14:21.) "The righteous considereth the cause of the poor: but the wicked regardeth not to know it." (Prov. 29:7.)

During the Savior's earthly ministry, he reemphasized his timeless concern for the poor. Remember the reply the Lord gave to the question of the rich man: "If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell [all] that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me." (Matt. 19:21; see also Luke 18:22.)"

Today in Sacrament Meeting, we sang a favorite hymn:  A Poor Wayfaring Man of Grief.  The words speak to my heart:

1. A poor, wayfaring Man of grief
Hath often crossed me on my way,
Who sued so humbly for relief
That I could never answer nay.
I had not pow'r to ask his name,
Whereto he went, or whence he came;
Yet there was something in his eye
That won my love; I knew not why

2. Once, when my scanty meal was spread,
He entered; not a word he spake,
Just perishing for want of bread.
I gave him all; he blessed it, brake,
And ate, but gave me part again.
Mine was an angel's portion then,
For while I fed with eager haste,
The crust was manna to my taste.

3. I spied him where a fountain burst
Clear from the rock; his strength was gone.
The heedless water mocked his thirst;
He heard it, saw it hurrying on.
I ran and raised the suff'rer up;
Thrice from the stream he drained my cup,
Dipped and returned it running o'er;
I drank and never thirsted more.

4. 'Twas night; the floods were out; it blew
A winter hurricane aloof.
I heard his voice abroad and flew
To bid him welcome to my roof.
I warmed and clothed and cheered my guest
And laid him on my couch to rest,
Then made the earth my bed and seemed
In Eden's garden while I dreamed.

5. Stript, wounded, beaten nigh to death,
I found him by the highway side.
I roused his pulse, brought back his breath,
Revived his spirit, and supplied
Wine, oil, refreshment--he was healed.
I had myself a wound concealed,
But from that hour forgot the smart,
And peace bound up my broken heart.

6. In pris'n I saw him next, condemned
To meet a traitor's doom at morn.
The tide of lying tongues I stemmed,
And honored him 'mid shame and scorn.
My friendship's utmost zeal to try,
He asked if I for him would die.
The flesh was weak; my blood ran chill,
But my free spirit cried, "I will!"

7. Then in a moment to my view
The stranger started from disguise.
The tokens in his hands I knew;
The Savior stood before mine eyes.
He spake, and my poor name he named,
"Of me thou hast not been ashamed.
These deeds shall thy memorial be;
Fear not, thou didst them unto me.

Text: James Montgomery, 1771-1854
Music: George Coles, 1792-1858, alt.

In the Doctrine and Covenants we read: "Ye must visit the poor and the needy and administer to their relief" (D&C 44:6). And: "Remember in all things the poor and the needy, the sick and the afflicted, for he that doeth not these things, the same is not my disciple" (D&C 52:40).

I am going to try my best to help in any way that I can.  The missionaries are teaching the people poor in spirit about Jesus Christ and helping them come unto the Savior.  I can do my part in these efforts by helping the missionaries with their health.  I can reach out to people in my ward and neighborhood who need help.  I can fast and pay a generous fast offering so that the Church can send aid to people and countries in need.  I can only make a minute contribution to the needs of the world but I can do as much as I am able.  I pray that the Lord will show me the way to help more and in whatever way I can.

I miss you and love you my family and friends.

Hanging on my wall where I can look at them many times a day. My greatest treasure!!
The corner vegetablefruit stand had asparagus for $2 a bundle.
Couldn't resist that taste of spring. Delicious.
My turn for main course FHE dinner. I got a pork loin at Costco so
I ordered a meat thermometer from Amazon. Want to make sure the roast is done!!
John, my brother, drove school bus in Las Vegas so
I always think of him when I see a school bus. I like the company name on this one.
From Google:

Pupil Transportation Services 

The State Education Department has oversight responsibility for school district provision of pupil transportation services to resident pupils attending public and nonpublic schools. Approximately 2.3 million pupils, or ten percent of the nation’s pupils, ride our 50,000 school buses each day. The 2008-09 statewide cost of services is approximately $2.8 billion with state aid of $1.5 billion. The Department processes 5,400 contracts and extensions annually for the delivery of services by private contractors. District owned school buses provide approximately half of all services and private school bus contractors provide the other half.

Monday, February 8, 2016

Many Thoughts of Kay This Week

I have friends and family who have lost their spouses and they tell me that they often dream about their loved one, or see them, or feel them.  I actually sensed Kay's presence with me twice soon after he died, but I feel him, or maybe remember him, on a daily basis. This week for some reason, he has been in my thoughts more than usual.  For example, as I crossed the bridge over the train tracks on our walk Tuesday morning, it was cold and the lady going down the steps ahead of me had her hands in her pockets, as did I.  I distinctly heard Kay's voice in my mind saying "Get your hands out of your pockets.  If you fall, you won't be able to get them out fast enough to catch yourself."  He has said that so many times as we walked across the ice or down the embankment while fishing or at other times walking across fields hunting pheasants or in the mountains deer hunting. I loved those times and the advice!! 

Someone gave me a piece of chewing gum the other day.  My go-to flavor is peppermint.  Kay's was spearmint.  The gum I was offered was spearmint.  Instantly Kay was with me.  I was rummaging through the car console looking for something and found a wintergreen lifesaver.  Wintergreen lifesavers are synonymous with Kay.  The grandchildren used to come into our bedroom to Grandpa sitting in his chair asking for candy (wintergreen lifesavers).  I hope they will always think of Grandpa when they see or smell wintergreen.

Wednesday morning I went to an area of Queens across the river from Manhattan to see if I could help a missionary with an insurance problem.  While there I walked passed a high school.  No football field.  No parking lot.  No outside area.  Just one big building in the middle of the city surrounded by a 6 foot fence.  As I stood on the corner across the street about to take a picture of it, a man told me that he worked there.  He informed me that it was the Aviation High School and if I walked down the street I could see a WWII plane and a jet fighter behind the fence. Interesting place. I walked all the way around it. Had to Google it when I got home.

Aviation High School looking across the street.



Jet engines behind the fence.
More school pics.
Art on the outside of the building. Looks like wings to me.
Wall art
More wall art
Wall murals
"Aviation High School, official name Aviation Career & Technical Education High School, is public high school #Q610 owned and operated by the New York City Department of Education. Formerly known as the School of Aviation Trades (SAT), Aviation High School has operated since 1936. It is ranked by US News and World Report as a 2013 Best High School in the Bronze Category.
It is located in Long Island City, which is a neighborhood in the New York City borough of Queens.  As of the 2013-14 school year, the school has an enrollment of 2,244 students. It also received an "A" rating for the seventh time in a row in the 2012-13 school year.

Educational Emphasis

Aviation High School is certified by the United States Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) for the training of Aircraft Maintenance Technicians (AMTs). Students who successfully complete the school's rigorous technical programs are allowed to take their FAA certification examinations without further qualification.

In order to achieve this, students at the school spend about three to four periods every day in "shop," technology related classes that concentrate on every aspect of an aircraft's structure, systems, and components, as well as more general aviation subjects such as aerodynamics and Federal Aviation Regulations. These specialized classes are taught by FAA-certificated AMTs, many of whom are themselves alumni of the school.

School Property

Aviation High School is one of the largest high schools in the city of New York. The school occupies a whole block right next to the 7 train and Queens Blvd. It is composed of six floors, as well as a basement, a hangar with multiple general aviation and World War II aircraft, a gymnasium, a cafeteria, and a dedicated ROTC area. The school is divided into two parts, the main part where most administration offices and academic classrooms are located, while a separate wing is dedicated to shop classes that runs from the first floor up to the sixth. An elevator and escalator also runs throughout the six floors of the building."
I was interested to note that the school has an extracurricular activities list just like most other high schools:

After School Activities

  1.    Science Leadership and Robotics
  2.    National Honor Society
  3.    Student Government & Leadership
  4.    Pegasus Society
  5.    Color Guard Drill Team
  6.    Skills USA
  7.    Muslim Student Association
  8.    Christian Club
  9.    Mural Club
10.    Journalism Club
11.    Photography and Arts club
12.    Aviation Bhangra Team
13.    Health Corps
14.    Computer Technology Club
15.    Key Club
16.    Anime and Comic Book Club
17.    Yearbook

Kay would have wanted to go in and visit the school and "hang out" with the students.  He enjoyed that.  I think I may have mentioned in a previous blog that I accompanied Kay and others in 1991 or 1992 to visit a high school in Brooklyn as we escorted several Academy of Finance students from East, Highland, and West.  The host high school escorted us into Manhattan where we visited the Stock Exchange and the markets in the World Trade Center.  We went to the top of one of the towers but I don't remember which tower it was.  That was a memorable experience.

As Kay and I traveled though out the states, Kay was always ready to tour a school at every opportunity and to talk to the students.  We visited schools in several states from Arizona to Washington and across the country.  I'll never forget his astonishment at finding a "smoking room" for the students in a North Carolina high school we visited.   That was before the no smoking in public facilities law. Great memories for me.

We had a little snow storm beginning last Thursday night and into Friday.  Put a damper on morning rush hour traffic.   We had a leadership training scheduled for Friday but it was moved to Saturday because of the bad roads.  About noon, the sun came out and much of the snow was gone by evening.

The Friday snowstorm.
The wind blew the snow into our front door.
It has been a routine nursing week.  It is the time of year for coughs, sore throats, runny/congested noses, nausea and what comes with it, and a few carryover neck and back and shoulder complaints left from shoveling snow during the BIG snow storm, Jonas.  I was going through the list of 197 or so missionaries in our mission to look for something and I noticed that there are few complaints from foreign born missionaries.  I am not sure if it is because they don't get sick or they just deal with it.  I rarely get a call from one of them.  Perhaps they have never had the kind of medical care available that we are accustomed to so they don't expect it.  

We have had two new senior missionary couples come into the mission to replace people who have left.  I overheard two of them talking about driving here in the city. It made me think of when I first came and began to drive these crazy streets.   I want to report that I am becoming a much more aggressive driver here in NYC. If you snooze, you sit there all day and the cars behind you honk endlessly.  Hence, I accelerate frequently which doesn't give one good gas mileage.   Again, I hear Kay explaining to me how to drive the Prius for the best possible gas mileage.  I can do it but I have chosen to join the "jack rabbit" starters off the line when the red light changes to green.  I am off like a shot and my gas mileage shows it!!  I seldom have anyone honk at me now and I can change lanes with the best of them. I haven't resorted to honking yet but perhaps with time…….

As my week draws to a close and a new one begins, I like to think of the things I've learned this week.  I've reaffirmed that the Lord directs His work on earth. I am grateful that I can be an instrument in His hands to help the missionaries and the people about me.  So many people don't have the opportunity to know and feel the love of our Savior.  I have had time to reflect on my family and the blessing that each of them is in my life.  My thoughts of Kay make me even more grateful for eternal families and the knowledge that Kay and I will spend eternity together with our children and grandchildren. 

I want to do everything in my power to assure that I will be worthy of eternal life with my ancestors, my husband and our posterity, Jesus Christ and our Heavenly Father.  I want to follow the example of my Savior. I have a testimony of His Atonement.  I believe that He loves me and helps to carry my burdens.  He is my rock.

I read a talk in the Ensign by Elder L.Tom Perry that he gave in conference October 2014:

"And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall" (Helaman 5:12).

It is the gospel of Jesus Christ that provides this foundation upon which we can find lasting peace and build eternal family units.

I love you my family and friends

Sister Anderson one year anniversary pic.
Sister Jenkins one year anniversary pic.
They were in the MTC and came to the mission together.
Got a hair cut.
I treated myself to flowers and a dear friend, Irene, sent me
the valentines pillow case.  Cute old fashioned valentines.
Looking into Long Island City. The subway is not "sub" here.
It runs above ground down the middle of Queens Blvd.
This guy was waiting outside CVS for his master. He was so cute.
He wouldn't talk to me but as soon as his owner came, the dog became my best friend.